Over the years I’ve had the opportunity to meet many couples throughout their wedding planning journey.
Yes, I’m a wedding photographer but also take every opportunity I can to help guide couples on all things weddings.
After all, if there’s anything I can do to make their planning a little easier, I see it as an honour.
Being involved so deeply in the industry has also allowed me at times (unfortunately) to chat to couples who are dealing with either a stressful decision or uncomfortable scenario during their planning.
So, while I truly believe that two people getting married is one of the most beautiful and positive things in life, today we are looking at what brides and grooms don’t need.
In many of my wedding conversations with couples, I tend to chat about the importance of ensuring that they don’t forget that their wedding day is in-fact their day.
What do I mean by that?
Well, here are a number of points to consider:
The guest list pressure
I’ll start off with the guest list because it’s one of the main causes of stress I see amongst couples during the wedding planning.
A wedding day is a big moment, one that more often than not brings joy to an entire family. And with that, a family that often wants to share that joy with everybody they know.
So, it is not uncommon that a guest list can get out of control fairly easily. This is where I remind the bride and groom that their wedding day is their day. And, as hard as it can be at times to place a limit on the guest list, at times it must be done. The most important part to keep in mind is that if you, the bride and groom feel like the guest list is getting out of control. Don’t be afraid to voice your concern. if you feel like it should be cut off at a certain point, don't be afraid to voice your point. Many venues have a capacity limit so one way to tackle this challenge is by first finding out how many people the venue can host. This may make the decision and conversation a little easier.
The photographer dilemma
It is not uncommon that a family friend, a relative, or a past or present colleague happen to be in the photography field. And, to put it simply, their name is offered to you.
It is fair to say that at times, simply saying yes may help you avoid an awkward moment or two with those people. That said, if you have a photographer in mind you were considering, or if you wanted to look for one that is a better fit for what you are looking for, it’s important you are heard.
The bridal party - fear of feelings getting hurt.
Although I left this to third, choosing a bridal party is known to be a tough task at times. After all, a bride and groom may have many to pick from and there’s always the fear of feelings getting hurt.
The solution?
Well, there’s a number of options. Due to the (at times) complexity of the matter, some couples choose not to have a bridal party. Others, simply make their decision, hoping those around them will understand. And while I know that at times it may be hard to decide, as I say, it is your day and you need to do what works for you.
One of my favourite parts of the job is helping couples figure things out and if I can assist in guiding them, I am always honoured to do so.
If you have any questions regarding a wedding photographer or weddings in general, feel free to reach out to me at Sev’s weddings.